06
Nov 24

Should we Call the Therapist or the Psychiatrist?

PsychoticEpisode.jpg“Pay attention to your teen’s current appearance and habits, observing posture, hygiene, and level of awareness.”

When your teen’s symptoms spike, it can be difficult to tell whether it is an emotional issue or a medicine issue. Many times I found myself wondering whether to call the therapist or the psychiatrist. Along the way, I found it useful to ask myself a few questions.

Has There Been a Change in my Teen’s Medicine?

Begin by asking yourself whether your teen has missed any doses. This is where a seven-day pill dispenser comes in handy. If your teen is symptomatic, you can easily check to see if any medicine was forgotten. Next, ask yourself whether your teen has been getting their medicine at the same time every day, since regularity is important. Any of these issues are easy to correct at home.

On the other hand, if the doctor has changed your teen’s medicine  or dosage within the past two weeks, suspect the medicine and call the psychiatrist.

Has There Been a Change in my Teen’s Routine?

If your teen has been on summer break for several weeks, the lack of structure may be affecting their mood. Think about your teen’s days and whether there have been significant changes, such as the end of a sports season. Lack of exercise can lower a teen’s mood or make them sleepy. Travel, or even having a guest come stay at the house, can unsettle a teen’s sense of well-being. This is especially the case with bipolar disorder–irregularity is the enemy here. Teens with schizophrenia need some alone time each day, so if your family is vacationing in hotel rooms and your teen does not have a quiet, private place to de-stress, anxiety and other symptoms may become more prominent.

Is My Teen Under New Stress?

Teens will by more symptomatic when experiencing a conflict at school or with a friend. Also, times of transition can bring on stress, including the start of a new school year or semester, exams, or graduation.

Conclusion A: It’s Time to Call the Therapist

If you ask your teen whether there is something the therapist needs to know about, and the answer is yes, call immediately. If your teen won’t talk at all, call the therapist. When you get there, go in for the first few minutes and explain what you’ve observed at home. Let the therapist take it from there.

Conclusion B: It’s Time to Call the Psychiatrist

If you conclude that your teen isn’t experiencing any new stressors or changes, suspect the medicine. Pay attention to your teen’s current appearance and habits, observing posture, hygiene, and level of awareness. Think back to the time before treatment with medicine began. For example, if your teen walked with a slump and seemed confused before treatment and you are seeing this again, call the psychiatrist.

While you’re sorting things out, ask your teen’s opinion about whether this is an issue for the therapist or the psychiatrist. Often, their instincts will provide the correct answer. It’s also a good idea to involve your teen in the decision so they can figure it out on their own in the future.

 


21
Oct 24

The Power of Sympathy

Teenager“You’re doing everything right.”

It can be frustrating to see your teen struggle and not make much progress. She may be frustrated too. When your teen opens up to you and expresses their fear that they’ll never get well or their disgust with the side effects of their medicine, it’s time to turn on the sympathy.

We all want to be understood. Often, there is nothing anyone can do to change our situation, but it can be incredibly comforting to know that someone understands what we are feeling. The validation and reassurance you give your teen that you understand goes a long way. It lets your teen know that you’re on they’re side and that you know they’re trying. It can literally knock their stress level from a ten to a more-manageable three. You’ll gain their trust because they’ll see that there’s a benefit to sharing their feelings.

Here are a few things you can say when your child is upset:

    “I’m listening. Tell me more.”
    “You’re doing everything right.”
    “It must be discouraging to work so hard and not progress at the rate you want.”
    “I truly think things will get better, but I know it’s hard in the meantime.”

In addition to having some sympathetic phrases handy, if your teen has a number of complaints, it can help to break the issues into groups. For example: problems with a friend and side effects from the medicine. This way the teen knows they are struggling with two issues, when it may feel like ten. If they have a plan for dealing with each issue, even if it’s just to wait a week or two, reinforce that they have at least something of an approach to each issue.